It's funny how even our own writings can be mis-understood. I did not intend to imply that the dead are sorrowful, but that those that are still alive sorrow for the dead that they have lost. And therefore I agree with what you say in your first paragraph.
I only used the YLT because I was flipping through various translations seeing what I could gleen from them and didn't pay close attention to which one I copied and pasted to here. lol. A helpful translation at times, but not one I intended to post for others to use..

sorry
I am horible at trying to describe or explain things in writing, and I am sorry for not being more clear. Unfortunatly I cannot even claim English as a second language.
When we Christians die, we go to be "present with the Lord". I believe that in some sense, Christ comes for each individual at the point of physical death. And until we physically die, we are alive and remain on this sin filled earth, and do not go into the presence of God until physical death occurs. But we know that those in Christ who have already died, have already gone into the presence of God and are currently with Him now and forever. Chronologicaly speaking, The Christians that have died are already with God, that is they have gone first, and I think Paul is telling his readers that they will join God and there dead fellow Christians at the "coming of Christ", which I think is upon our physical death. We read in 1 Co 15 that all will be made alive, but
EACH in his own order. Christ , the firstfruits, then when Christ comes those who belong to him. And if you don't jump to the assumption that "Christ's coming" is the end of the world, then you might be able to see what I am trying to say. For in 1 Co 15 it then says,
THEN comes the end. I believe there is an END. When the last Christian has died, and Christ has come for him, THEN the end has come. Something I have learned from Steve is that "Christ coming" does not always mean the same thing, and depends on the context, as in Matt 24, His "coming" was no the end of the world, right? It was the end of something, but not the end of the world. And therefore, Is Christ's "coming" in 1 Th 4 and 5 the end of the world? or something else? Our full preterist brothers would put all of "Christ's coming" in the new testament in AD 70 I think, and I don't think that is correct.
I think physical death is going to be a "resurection" of some sort. A change, in a twinkling of an eye, when we put off the mortal body. And my current believe is that our immortal, spiritual body will be given to us at that time as well, just like Christs body. Either we are dissembodied souls or we get our immortal bodies. Not that I care, because I will be with God and I am sure nothing else will matter, and if there is a "time" between physical death and the immortal, spiritual body then thats fine as well, I just don't think the Scripture clearly states that is the case, but in fact tells us otherwise. but again, that realy doesn't matter to me, as long as I am with God.
I also think that there is a literal "end" to this world in which there will be a new heaven and earth, like Romans 8 tells us, and I do believe that to be literal not figurative.
Now I know some of you are thinking of John 5:28 when Jesus states that a time is coming when all who are in the tombs will hear his voice and will come out - good and evil. Most, if not all of you would believe this to be a still future event. right? I disagree, I would say that He is speaking of the time of His resurrection. When Christ died and rose again, I believe this happened. All those in the grave, who had died up to that point in time, came forth, either to a resurrection resulting in life or condemnation. What Jesus said I believe happened at His resurrection.
And when Paul tells us in Acts 24:15 about the resurrection, he says there is going to be a resurrection of the righteous and the unrighteous. This does not state it is a singular event in time, that understanding must be read into the text. All it is saying is that everyone is going to be resurrected, it is not stating that the resurrection of everyone is at the same time.
Heb 9:27. people are appointed to die once, and then to face judgment. It doesn't say we die, then wait....... then face judgment.
Doug